How to Do Mutual Masturbation with your Partner
Harder, better, faster, stronger? Sorry, Daft Punk, but we know a better, more pleasurable way to achieve results (fear not, we will continue to listen to your music). Have you ever tried mutual masturbation with a partner?
No, you say? Well, for anyone who has tried mutual masturbation, it can create a most thrilling, stimulating session with your lover. Be prepared to not only orgasm to complete satisfaction, but also reach a new level of intimacy with your partner. If you still have no clue as to what we are saying, no worries. We'll get you up to speed in no time.
So here we go! Let's talk about how to do mutual masturbation with your partner.
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What is Mutual Masturbation (Just for the Record)?
So what is mutual masturbation? There are many that consider mutual masturbation as the act of masturbating yourself in front of your partner, who is also doing the same. There are others that will take the definition further to include masturbating your partner while your partner masturbates you. For the purists, perhaps the former is true, however, we are not going to argue with any definition you go with.
Whatever your idea of mutual masturbation is, it's all good and you should really just go with the flow. No need to bring out the dictionary on this one! Might spoil the mood, you know?
Getting to Know Each Other More Intimately
There are a lot of magic doors that can be opened once you've started mutually masturbating with your partner. It helps your lover learn where some of the most sensitive areas are on your body. Once they know this, you can really heat up your nights (and days), perhaps making them even more intense than before.
The one drawback that some feel apprehension about mutual masturbation is exposing yourself and your most intimate parts, as well as your most intimate emotions, to someone else. After all, once you start mutually masturbating with your partner, they will know every inch of you and know what turns you on. They’ll even see that funny orgasm face you make when you are getting close. So it is good to be with someone you can really trust.
They say that the eyes are the window to the soul, so making a lot of eye contact with each other may reveal each others' inner feelings, thoughts, and character. Sometimes this nonverbal communication says so much more than mere words. So without having to interrupt your lovemaking and revert to commentary or up-to-the-minute in-depth analysis of how things are going for you or your partner, pay close attention to their body and facial expressions (it’s also okay to go a bit primal with a good healthy moan - this might be a tremendous turn on as well as a clear sign of approval).
Believe us when we say that stimulation of the genitals is only one part of having mind-blowing orgasms. As we have said before, the mind is your biggest sex organ!
Trust is key. Once you've decided to fully trust each other, there is no turning back. At that point, just let yourself go and enjoy!
Mind Blowing What? Bring on the Sex Toys!
Photo courtesy of Dainis Graveris of Sexual Alpha
We at TENGA know how much sex toys can add to the thrill and satisfaction of your mutual masturbation sessions. The type and quality of the elastomer that is used for the sleeve also helps hold and enhance all the internal details of a male masturbator to give you far more pleasure. The firm yet soft feeling of a quality vibrator gives you reassurance that the item will last, and give your partner that sense of safety and intimacy they will feel deep inside their body. We feel that high quality translates to better orgasms (and you are most welcome to try out this theory for yourself)!
That also goes for the lotions you use to lube up with! TENGA Lotions are specially formulated to work with TENGA products. No doubt it’s a match made in heaven for your match made in heaven!
So definitely explore TENGA's world of sex toys. We are constantly developing new and wonderful ways for everyone, not only men or women, but also couples to enhance their passionate pleasure!
Let's Talk Mutual Masturbation Positions
Okay, this is what you've all been waiting for! How to actually do mutual masturbation with your partner. What are some of the positions people use to mutually masturbate? Curious?
There has to be a near endless number of possible positions you can try, probably even more than we have varieties of TENGA CUPs, EGGs, or even FLIP Series items. We just want to feature some of the most common positions you can start with.
Note to self: Don't forget to pick up a variety of lotions as well (yes, different types). Even if you use the same sex toy, playing with an unlimited combination of lotions creates very different and exciting sensations! Don’t take our word for it, try it out for yourself and lube up with TENGA’s variety pack right here.
Side-by-Side/Face to Face
Gazing into your partner's eyes while touching yourself, lying side-by-side, is more about sharing the moment you both feel - the moment of ecstasy and climax reflected in each other's facial expressions and eye contact. This can become a deeply intimate and bonding experience.
The 69
A good year for some, a great position for many more. You can either masturbate each other or mutually masturbate just as easily in this position. The 69 is more about the physical stimulation because of course you cannot see each other eye to eye. Nonetheless, an oldie but goodie!
Show and Tell
You've got a secret that's got to come out! And who better to share it with? You'll be facing each other, either on your knees, or perhaps straddling each other's legs, while touching yourself and coming to that most revealing moment.
The Voyeur
All the world's a stage, but this one is reserved for your one and only! One partner watches while the other pleasures themself (or the other pleasures themself while watching - this works, too). Pay close attention to what turns them on, where, and how slow/fast they like it. Take copious notes so you can satisfy them more in the near future!
The Lap Dance
This might also be called the cowgirl position, if it were actual intercourse. Your partner sits on top (on your lap), with legs straddled while you both perform mutual masturbation. You get a little of both worlds, a slight view of each other masturbating and eye contact. You can also hug and kiss each other at the end.
Again, these are just a few mutual masturbation positions to help get you and your partner started. Have fun continuing to discover new ones each time.
Experiment and Have Fun!
However you choose to mutually masturbate, make it fun and stimulating!
So there you have it! We hope we have given you a good place to start on your newfound journey to mutual masturbation.
Also please note that mutual masturbation can be enjoyed by the same sex, opposite sex, or any gender. The important thing about the act of mutual masturbation for many is the connection you strengthen with your loving partner. Don’t worry, just enjoy!
Once you have established that connection with someone else, you may be able to take it further into a variety of directions. Say, for example, your partner needs to be away from you, a long distance session over the phone with each other can have so much more emotion and meaning once you know each other's hot spots.
The sky’s the limit, so don’t hesitate to try new things and explore each other, you might find there are fewer limits than you thought! Just remember to keep it safe.
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